the listener works to understand the speaker's feelings and the true meaning of the message.

first level - focused on the outcome of the behavior

Agreements that protect property, ownership, money, and possibly roles before marriage

The act of deceiving

one that is automatically acquired (ex: at birth you became a daughter)

positive input that helps others feel appreciated and supported.

rules, expectations, and judgement of the group become the standard for behavior

marital satisfaction starts high, drops, then rises again with the introduction of children in the marriage.

Someone who studies and predicts the future

deliberately selected role (ex: decide to become parents)

unselfish concern for the welfare of others

People begin to evaluate customs and laws based on their own personal standards

when partners stop making the effort to be close; alienated

What is sameness

A person from whom you learn behaviors and attitudes.

The ability to direct one's life independently

Lawrence Kohlberg

individual states

An intense emotional involvement beginning with strong attractions (a crush)

Set ideas about groups of people

Learning by listening

A clear set of rules or principles that guide actions and decisions

A binding agreement between two people

learn by doing

When people have differing views about role expectations