A balance between Reasonable Mind and Emotion Mind.

Objectives (ask for something effectively)
Relationship (maintain positive relationships)
Self-respect (maintain your self-respect)

We use DEAR MAN skills when we...

Finding a bit of truth in another person's perspective or situation, verify the facts of a situation, acknowledge that the person's emotions, thoughts, and behaviors are understandable.

Mindfulness skills that make friendships last longer.

1. To reduce suffering
2. To increase control of your mind
3. To experience reality as it is

What is walking the middle path and having balanced interactions ("I want -- They want")?

The first step in DEAR MAN is...

HOW: Relax, Avoid, Validate, Examine, Neutral voice
TYPES: I'll cut, you choose, Take turns, Do both, Trial period, My way when I'm doing it, your way when you're doing it, Tit for tat, Part of what I want, part what you want, Split the difference

Everyone is standing somewhat apart in a group, members occasionally glance around, gaps in conversation, members talk about a topic of GENERAL interest.

WHAT and HOW skills of Mindfulness

Give an example of a worry thought/Unhelpful belief that might stop you from achieving an interpersonal effectiveness goal.

What's an example of Reinforcing your request?

This is the definition of objectiveness.

Replace judgmental words with descriptive words; Avoid assuming or interpreting what others think; Avoid questioning other people's motives; Give others the benefit of the doubt.

A quick relaxation technique with your attention focused on breathing: deep inhalation and holding the breath for a few seconds (try 5 seconds) before exhalation. You can make a square using your finger (up=breathe in through your nose; side, and down= hold the breath; over=exhale out your mouth)

(e.g. pulling away from a relationship rather than saying anything that could be upsetting.)

Name all the DEAR MAN skills

When someone is asking too much of you, this balance is off.

True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.

Present-moment awareness. An open and friendly willingness to understand what's going on in and around you- physically and mentally, and without judgment.

Nonverbal Communication consists of what?

The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)

"What will my friend's think?" or "I'd probably screw it up anyway" are examples of these things that get in the way of objective effectiveness

What's a way to get rid of interpersonal effectiveness myth (remember, a myth is something like "if I don't _____, people will think I'm _____)